When was it obvious that the relationship was doomed? So many say they wish they knew their spouse was a cheater (or alcoholic, gambler, controlling, abusive …). Was it really a surprise? Probably not. Be honest with yourself. When did you know?
- Was he checking his phone more often then you were comfortable with?
- Was she unreachable when you called, only to say she must have been in a spot with poor cell reception?
- Is your combined income good, yet money is unaccounted for?
- Do you feel you need to walk on eggshells around her?
Be honest with yourself. Most of us knew, or should have known when the relationship started to go bad. My suggestion, when you see something, say something! Willful blindness could only prolong the inevitable and even make the situation worse. Isn’t it better to address your concerns early, before resentment rears it’s ugly head? If the problem is not able to be fixed, don’t you owe it to yourself to know it, confront it and move forward? Knowing your happiness is in your control is empowering. If divorce is inevitable, at least have some control over how you handle it. Make your happiness and self-esteem your priority.
Don’t be a constant victim. Instead be a conqueror!